Save this article to read it later.
Find this story in your accountsSaved for Latersection.
Thats truly the most helpful thing you’ve got the option to do.
I have really really had to think about this and decided I need to talk about it …
I really wanna be careful about that language.
That was easy enough to know.
I knew that I wasnt doing anybody any favors by feeling these things.
You were jealous, I was supporting this person, Im a mentor, Im a feminist.
Itsyourproblem, not mine.Yourethe one that actually is seeing things through that lens.
And so I let myself keep doing it.
I dont want to explain to you what Ive learned.
Now I wasnt in danger of being a bad person.
Now I wanted to teach her a lesson.
After all, if youre just gonna be a writer, this is how just writers get treated.
And that was probably the darkest of it all.
And I moved on.
But I wouldnt have had to talk about it.
And the last and most important thing I can say is just: Think about it.
hey dont hurt her.
like dont make this worse on anybody but me, and lets move on.
Im bad at ending things.
I didnt bring up this mess just to sweep it back under the rug.
I waited 6 years for it, but it’s possible for you to find it 18:38 in.
like listen to it.
Its only seven minutes long, but it is a masterclass in How to Apologize.
Hes not rationalizing or justifying or making excuses.
He doesnt just vaguely acknowledge some general wrongdoing in the past.
He gives a full account.
Yes, I only listened because I expected an apology.
But what I didn’t expect was the relief Id feel just hearing him say these things actually happened.
I didnt dream it.
Ironic that the only person who could give me that comfort is the one person Id never ask.
This was never about vengeance; it’s about vindication.
Because if any part of this process should be done in the light, its the forgiveness part.
And so,@danharmon, I forgive you.
